She Was Always Waiting to Be Loved

There is a little girl inside you.

Maybe you know her. Maybe you’ve spent years trying not to think about her. Maybe you’ve told yourself you’re past all that — you’ve done the work, you’ve moved on, you’re fine.

But she is still there. And she has been waiting — patiently, quietly, with a kind of love that is almost unbearable in its faithfulness — for you to come back for her.

My little girl did not break me. She protected me. She carried me. And now — I carry her.

I want to tell you something I had to learn the hard way:

She was never the problem.

The sensitivity. The tears that came too easily. The way she felt everything so deeply it sometimes knocked the breath out of her. The way she longed for closeness and didn’t always know how to find it. The way she looked around at everyone else and quietly wondered why she felt so different, so alone, so much.

None of that was the problem.

That was the gift. And nobody told her.

The part of you that you hid was the part of you that most needed love. Not fixing. Not managing. Love.

I think about this often…what I would do if one of my children came to me feeling unworthy. Feeling like something was wrong with them. Feeling like they were too much or not enough or somehow outside of what the world wanted them to be.

I would wrap them in love. I would hold them until they could feel it. I would not stop until they could see themselves the way I see them — whole, worthy, exactly right.

And yet, for so many years, I did not do that for myself.

I hid her instead. I covered her in perfection, in how I looked and how I lived and how everything appeared, trying to outrun a feeling that only ever needed to be held.

She wasn’t asking to be fixed.

She was asking to be loved.

So now — this is what I do differently:

I sit with her. I love her into safety. I breathe light into all the parts of me,  not just the ones I once believed were worthy, but all of me. The uncertain parts. The tender parts. The parts that still flinch sometimes when they expect not to be enough.

I carry her with love. With gratitude. With reverence.

Because she carried me first.

This is the work I do with women. Not because I have it all figured out,  but because I have walked this path. I know what it is to hold yourself at a distance. And I know what it is to finally come home.

If something in you recognized herself in these words, if there is a little girl in you who has been waiting, I would be honored to walk with you.

She doesn’t have to wait any longer.

Judy is a mentor who is knowledgeable in many different healing tools and I appreciate how she knows what tool to use with me depending on what I am experiencing in the moment. She is an excellent example of a woman who has the courage to do hard things and succeed.

Grace Redman
Entrepreneur | Success & Transformation Coach
DareToAchieve.com

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