What do you feel is missing in your life?

I struggled for most of my life feeling like there was something missing.

I was looking for something more, but I didn’t know what it was.

I thought it might be in taking care of people because I liked to help people feel better. As time went on, I found myself resentful because they didn’t feel better, or I felt unappreciated. Being a people pleaser did not fill me with what I was looking for. I was looking for what was missing in other people.

As I was able to buy things for myself, I thought the cars, houses, clothes, shoes (okay, maybe the shoes did; if you’re a shoe person you know what I’m talking about), and vacations would fill the void I felt.

They did for a short time, then I was buying more and doing more. I didn’t find what was missing there either.

What I didn’t realize is that subconsciously the people pleasing, perfectionism, keeping myself busy, shopping and vacations were all compulsions to avoid feeling painful emotions. To avoid feeling disconnected and alone.

Those painful emotions were my Soul’s way of getting my attention and the more I ignored them, the stronger they got and the more unhappy I felt.

My Soul wanted me to look inside for the answers instead of looking only in my outer world where the answers were dependent on others and circumstances that I had no control over.

What I was missing was ME.

It was time to put down all the things that kept me from being me and remember who I came here to be.

How did I do that?

First was the awareness that I wanted something different; I wanted to feel better.

Next was taking responsibility for the part I was playing.

Then feeling those painful emotions that I had been ignoring and releasing them, forgiving myself and others in the process.

Lastly and still, I am choosing to look inside for the Connection I desire and follow my Guidance.

Being able to sit in uncomfortable emotions and look inside instead of at what sparked those emotions allows me to move through them.

Learning emotional awareness is life changing. It keeps us from reacting when something outside of us sparks painful emotions inside.

I have more to share about emotions.

I would love for you to attend my in-person event:

I have a mastermind group starting in May.

I also have several options for personal mentoring.

Here’s what one of my mentoring clients said about attending a personal retreat and mentoring with me:

What a weekend! I have no words to express my gratitude to Judy who has been a huge influence in my life the last 7 months. I’m so grateful for her guidance!

When we change the world changes.