More Emotions

I’ve always said that I have a high pain tolerance but a low tolerance for being in pain.

I was talking about physical pain. I’ve learned that the same is true for me with emotional pain. I could take a lot, stuff it down, and pretend everything was ‘fine’, I’m good, no problem, whatever you think.’

What I didn’t realize is that my emotions were there to teach me about myself, to show me an aspect of myself that needed my attention.

Do you blame others or circumstances or situations for your emotions?

‘If he would put the lid on the toothpaste…’

It’s rarely what’s happening in the moment that causes the emotions we feel. Many times, it is something inside us that gets triggered. A wound that we’re likely unaware of.

What if the toothpaste lid being left off triggered a wound you have around not being heard or valued. No matter how many times you ask him to put the lid on the toothpaste, he leaves it off and you feel like he’s not listening to you and doesn’t value your requests.

There was likely a time when you were younger that you decided that someone important in your life didn’t listen to you or value your feelings.

We make decisions when we are young to protect ourselves. We need to feel safe. We often hold on to those decisions and throughout our lives add many other experiences and layers of emotion to them. The wound gets bigger and closer to the surface and is triggered by events that don’t fit the reactions we have.

What if we got curious about why certain things triggered emotions in us.

What if our emotions show up to bring awareness to pain that wants to be freed.

What if we aren’t meant to stay stuck in our emotions.

What if we learn to take the time and space to process our emotions.

Awareness is the first step. How do you want to feel?

When we change the world changes.