Saving space every day to process our emotions

We don’t always have the time and space to process our emotions that come up throughout the day.

Sure, we can let them fly and project them onto others, (I was really good at that, especially with my family), but then what happens?

The guilt I felt for offloading those emotions kept me in a cycle of making it up to them by having loose boundaries, then I would feel taken advantage of and the emotions would resurface, and the cycle would repeat, daily most of the time.

We’ve been taught that fear is the opposite of love, but what about guilt?

Guilt keeps us from loving ourselves. It can make us feel indebted to the other person and unworthy of their love.

All the emotions, offloading, loose boundaries, repeating cycles, all of it, is our responsibility to change. We are the only ones we can change. Taking responsibility does not mean that others don’t have a part. It simply means that we choose to move through the situation.

This is challenging to hear and necessary to make the changes we want in our lives.

We must stop blaming others for our emotions and look within ourselves for the cause. Most often, it has little to do with the person in front of us, and more to do with something inside us that is unresolved; an emotion that hasn’t been felt and released.

That’s why getting in the habit of taking time throughout the day or at the end of the day to look over what sparked emotion in you is a good practice.

The more you feel into your emotions, the more natural it becomes to release them.

Emotions are our body’s way of indicating that there is something for us to look at, to get our attention, and bring us into the present moment. To look at our emotions without judgement, just curiosity helps us move through them without getting caught up or stuck in them.

Here are some things I ask myself when an emotion comes up.

Isn’t that interesting that I feel _____?

I wonder why, what can I learn?

How can I look at this differently?

We can’t control what emotions might surface or when they might show up, what we can control is how we process them.

Saving space for processing every day is a good practice.

Sit in a quiet space, close your eyes, and feel into your day. Go through the events of the day and feel everything from the day.

Take the time to ask yourself the questions I listed.

Is there anything you need to do? Maybe forgive yourself or others, apologize, make amends, see the situation in a different way.

Fully feel and release that emotion.

When we change the world changes.